Upon inheriting the meticulously researched and (huge) family tree, my dad and I were pretty excited to find out the first of our ancestors was from Normandy. That is to say, moved up and became a knight, land owner, Etc, . Fast forward until 1650, when 2 brothers are documented as arriving in this land , eventually to become the U.S. There were several men with our name recorded as fighting in the Revolution, The War of 1812, the Civil War, WWI, WWII, and the Korean War. MY FATHER served our country for 5 years. Caring for mom in hospice was an honour and a privilege. She made sure I had every opportunity. When she passed, my dad and I were even more best friends along with husband and kid.
My parents were the best and my grandparents ( on both sides as well) Grandma hoped I would be a DAR someday . I wasn’t sure if she was or not. It doesn’t matter because in their “rules “ book? EFFIN
ADOPTED CHILDREN do not count. My parents could not have children. How dare !
HOW DARE these self righteous women suggest that it is only blood that makes a family!! How dare they suggest my mother and father were any thing less than my parents! There is some woman out there who carried me in her womb for my folks. Don’t know her, not interested to. She is non person I feel nothing. Maybe a bit of thanks - for being in the right time and place for my folks to fetch me. Again, I had really thought your group would be great but I’m disgusted. Who thinks this kind of stuff? What year is this?
This is blatant hypocrisy and absolute DISCRIMINATION, and I can’t be the only one that this has happened to! I hope everyone reads this and writes a long letter that it is the greatest INSULT to my parents and I hope I never meet one you It’s not blood that makes a family!!!!
I really hope in one of your little meetings, you bring this up. Because my dad’s lineage could blow you away.
It’s 2025. Does this actually need to be said.
It’s Fathers Day. I am by myself, crying so hard from his loss. The only comfort I have is thinking about how he would take you down for suggesting his little girl was anyone’s but his baby. And if my mom was there? Better start running “Ladies “. Run fast.
I’m not a joiner anyway.
Apologies to taking up anyone’s time but if you insist on insulting my parents and me, I give it back.
Thank for use of your excellent article. I needed this space badly. Truly- I thank you.
Thanks for this Laura. My grandmother was a member of the DAR and when I got big time into genealogy I thought I check it out. I went ahead and proved the lineage and then started getting calls to join my local chapter. But I had the history of the DAR and its earlier racism stuck in my mind, plus a similar idea of what the women would be like. Plus, I do not salute the flag. So, I didn't join them. But I agree that "being patriotic" seems to be a very good way to be!
I love this. You state eloquently what we all feel. I am disgusted on a daily basis. It's hard to listen to the news knowing what is coming, yet I do and even check Fox's website to see what they're currently saying. I am writing to every person in power that I know of to get them to put forth legislation to put a new, better Fairness Doctrine in place. Something that would force news organizations to have to tell both sides of a story, not just the side that makes their viewers and sponsors happy. Only when we ALL have the whole story will we ever be able to move forward. I don't see my Republican friends and relatives doing that until Fox and other right wing news media are forced to give both sides of a story. I feel the same about MSNBC which is why I no longer watch it. It makes me feel good, but that's not why we watch the news, we watch it to know what is happening.
Upon inheriting the meticulously researched and (huge) family tree, my dad and I were pretty excited to find out the first of our ancestors was from Normandy. That is to say, moved up and became a knight, land owner, Etc, . Fast forward until 1650, when 2 brothers are documented as arriving in this land , eventually to become the U.S. There were several men with our name recorded as fighting in the Revolution, The War of 1812, the Civil War, WWI, WWII, and the Korean War. MY FATHER served our country for 5 years. Caring for mom in hospice was an honour and a privilege. She made sure I had every opportunity. When she passed, my dad and I were even more best friends along with husband and kid.
My parents were the best and my grandparents ( on both sides as well) Grandma hoped I would be a DAR someday . I wasn’t sure if she was or not. It doesn’t matter because in their “rules “ book? EFFIN
ADOPTED CHILDREN do not count. My parents could not have children. How dare !
HOW DARE these self righteous women suggest that it is only blood that makes a family!! How dare they suggest my mother and father were any thing less than my parents! There is some woman out there who carried me in her womb for my folks. Don’t know her, not interested to. She is non person I feel nothing. Maybe a bit of thanks - for being in the right time and place for my folks to fetch me. Again, I had really thought your group would be great but I’m disgusted. Who thinks this kind of stuff? What year is this?
This is blatant hypocrisy and absolute DISCRIMINATION, and I can’t be the only one that this has happened to! I hope everyone reads this and writes a long letter that it is the greatest INSULT to my parents and I hope I never meet one you It’s not blood that makes a family!!!!
I really hope in one of your little meetings, you bring this up. Because my dad’s lineage could blow you away.
It’s 2025. Does this actually need to be said.
It’s Fathers Day. I am by myself, crying so hard from his loss. The only comfort I have is thinking about how he would take you down for suggesting his little girl was anyone’s but his baby. And if my mom was there? Better start running “Ladies “. Run fast.
I’m not a joiner anyway.
Apologies to taking up anyone’s time but if you insist on insulting my parents and me, I give it back.
Thank for use of your excellent article. I needed this space badly. Truly- I thank you.
Thanks for this Laura. My grandmother was a member of the DAR and when I got big time into genealogy I thought I check it out. I went ahead and proved the lineage and then started getting calls to join my local chapter. But I had the history of the DAR and its earlier racism stuck in my mind, plus a similar idea of what the women would be like. Plus, I do not salute the flag. So, I didn't join them. But I agree that "being patriotic" seems to be a very good way to be!
I love this. You state eloquently what we all feel. I am disgusted on a daily basis. It's hard to listen to the news knowing what is coming, yet I do and even check Fox's website to see what they're currently saying. I am writing to every person in power that I know of to get them to put forth legislation to put a new, better Fairness Doctrine in place. Something that would force news organizations to have to tell both sides of a story, not just the side that makes their viewers and sponsors happy. Only when we ALL have the whole story will we ever be able to move forward. I don't see my Republican friends and relatives doing that until Fox and other right wing news media are forced to give both sides of a story. I feel the same about MSNBC which is why I no longer watch it. It makes me feel good, but that's not why we watch the news, we watch it to know what is happening.